Making Friends as a New Mom

Simple Ways to Make Friends as a Young Parent

• Look for other parents who are in a similar stage of life.
  Connecting with someone who understands the realities of raising a young child can make friendship feel more natural. Parent groups, playgroups, childcare programs, schools, libraries, and community organizations can all be places to meet other parents. Sites like Young United Parents can help you make connections with people who have common interests and experiences. 
• Don't be afraid to start the conversation.
  Making the first move can be intimidating, but something as simple as, "How old is your child?" or "Have you been coming here for a long time?" can open the door to a conversation. You don't have to immediately become best friends, just focus on getting to know someone first. 
• Join activities based on your interests, not just your child's.
  Parenting may be a huge part of your life, but it doesn't have to be your only identity. Consider joining a fitness class, book club, crafting group, volunteer organization, church or community group, or another activity that genuinely interests you. Shared interests can make it easier to bond. 
• Use social media intentionally.
  Social media can be a useful starting point for finding local parent groups, events, classes, and community activities. You can also reconnect with someone you already know but haven't talked to in a while. Just remember that online interaction doesn't always replace the benefits of genuine, supportive relationships in real life.
• Give friendships time to develop.
  Adult friendships usually don't happen overnight. You may see the same parent at the playground several times before you exchange phone numbers. You may attend several events before you find someone you truly connect with. Keep showing up and allow relationships to develop naturally.
• Be honest about your schedule.
  Parenting can make spontaneous plans difficult. Instead of apologizing for it, communicate what works for you. A friend may be perfectly happy meeting for coffee at 10 a.m. instead of going out at night.
• Don't limit yourself to parent friends.
  Having friends who are also parents can be incredibly helpful, but friendships with people who don't have children can also be meaningful and offer a different perspective.  
• Consider friendships that are supportive rather than perfect.
  A good friend doesn't have to have the same parenting style, schedule, or personality as you. Look for people who respect your boundaries, cheer for you and want to be supportive.
• Ask for help when you need it.
  Friendship isn't only about having fun. A strong support system can also provide practical and emotional support.